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Enter erotic author Jacqueline Jillinghoff, who has already contributed three exquisite stories to our site. Out of the blue, she offered to do some editing for Juicy Secrets after I bemoaned my work load in a story comment. Honestly, I wasn’t fishing for assistance, but wasn’t about to say no, either – especially not to someone who unquestionably had the writer’s chops that the task required. “It’s all about telling your partner how much of a turn-on it is for you to know that you are turning them on,” Eros says. “The best way to show this is not by just saying what you want or plan to do or how you feel, but the ‘why’ behind it. Getting to the ‘why’ really helps add so much more sexual detail.” With some basic education around sexting etiquette (and a little dash of confidence), you’ll be ready to hit send on the spiciest of texts in no time.

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• That means not only engaging with the more structured narratives of written, visual, or audio erotica, but also borrowing ideas and language from the more improvised erotic narratives of roleplaying from the kink community.
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• But in the bedroom, it can imbue you or your partner with a sense of power and confidence that’s just plain hot.
• Whatever your relationship status during the pandemic, the right approach to dirty talk can develop and deepen your erotic connection with a partner from a safe distance.
• Always remember that it’s both party’s right to respectfully say no at any time.

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Dirty talk during lockdown isn’t just for established couples who are suddenly long-distance because they can’t quarantine at home together, though. It’s also an ideal step for those developing virtual relationships during the pandemic. Lesbian romance stories brought to you as an immersive podcast. Created to make you smile, blush or keep you on the edge of your seat.

“Part of the thrill is using sort of edgy, boundary-pushing epithets that we can reclaim through sex.” When it comes to advanced dirty talk, Horn suggests that you, “really see yourself as a storyteller, a creative person exercising a skill.” If your partner is using words or phrases that don’t work for you, be gentle in how you let them know. Pay attention to the words and phrases your partner is using and adopt them if you’re comfortable. You can share each other’s word banks or just incorporate what’s affirming versus what’s off-limits into natural conversation. “One of the most important basics is understanding what words you like to describe all the parts of your body, as well as your partner’s,” says Horn.

Marin suggests trying to read either already written erotica or what you wrote down out loud to yourself in the mirror. It’s a great exercise in getting comfortable with the vulnerability of vocalizing your desires from the comfort of your own company. Our aim is to bring all lesbians together on whole website and make things a little easier for people wanting to make friends online.

• I was in college and, cliché as it sounds, it just kinda happened.
• Dirty talk can help partners get on the same page by opening each other up to all kinds of discussions around desire.
• Reframing those as opportunities to experiment with things you otherwise would never bother with can be a stimulating way to cope.
• Your biggest overall obstacle is simply getting out of your own head about it.
• As a queer woman myself, I was mostly concerned that the two female characters ate a whole plate of spaghetti without brushing their teeth before commencing intercourse.

Aside from the nitty-gritty stuff, though, there are also tons of secondary sexual characteristics for you to explore. What parts of your body feel maybe unexpectedly erotically charged for you? Maybe you love when a partner pays attention to your hair (whether up top or down under), thighs, wrists, collar bone, feet, ears, neck, forehead, cheek, or chin.

In my own experiences, I’ve focused a lot on bringing women to orgasm. I wouldn’t stop what I was doing until she at least appeared to be satiated, orgasm or not. I realize now that I often rely on maneuvers that men have used with me, and the women seem to enjoy them. “[Sex between women] tends to be more about exploration of bodies,” Aryka concludes. Clean your sex toys after every time you have sex. Realize that lesbian bodies come in many forms (including pre-surgery trans women.) Ask your partner how their genitals like to be touched and how you can validate their gender identity in the bedroom.

Or rehash old memories of the best sexual experiences you’ve had IRL, whether with your current partner or a previous one (though of course be conscientious of omitting details that could spark jealousy). The exercise above has already given you a base for creating your very own dirty talk word bank. A word bank is a list of your preferred naughty verbiage, whether words or phrases, that you can pull from to take the pressure off figuring it out in the heat of the moment. “But I can use language to describe what I love about how they feel in my arms, the way they smell, the experience of them tasting me.” In the era of social-distancing, words have become one of our best replacements for physical intimacy. That’s especially true when it comes to dirty talk, whether it’s done over the phone, sexting, or video chat.